Ever since I heard the idea of a babymoon, I loved it! Getting away to spend some time with each other before the baby comes and turns your life upside down. We hope to get away with just the two of us before each of our babies are born. This time is the easiest, because we don't have any kiddos yet. Thankfully, we were both blessed with great parents who have already said they will be more than willing to take the kids for us when we need to get away for awhile. However, I have a feeling future "babymoons" will be more like a long weekend, instead of the larger trip we are doing this time.
A babymoon gives us time to relax, recoup, and rejuvenate our marriage. I am so excited to get away with just my Matt Pat! Even though I am no longer working, and people think we spend a lot of time together...we really don't. At least not quality time. A lot of times in the evenings I am helping him with his homework (so romantic and fun, huh?), or we are working on something in the house (trying to get it all done before baby comes!) And the time that normally would be just for "us" time, weekends...we are almost always gone. We visit our families...a lot. Don't get us wrong, we love it, and we love being close to them, but that doesn't give us intentional time with each other. And there are times, especially in this season around Thanksgiving/Christmas that it becomes almost like a chore. Where are we going this weekend? Whose house haven't we stayed at in awhile? Which family needs time now? It becomes monotonous and not all that fun.
Matthew 19:6
"So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let NO ONE separate."
I think all too often our marriages are interrupted by people. Probably not intentionally, but life just gets in the way. There is a party this weekend, or family wants to visit, or so on. And our marriages get pushed aside. Nothing too dramatic, maybe just not time to talk or pray with each other. And that builds up and after awhile you realize its been weeks since you have spent intentional time with each other. And that is what we want to avoid. That is something we struggle with, probably because we are so close to our families. But above all else, our marriage should come first. And even though telling family no to things might not be the most fun in that moment, it makes things much better in the long run. We aren't going to have time (especially once we have kids in our life) to get away on a trip once a week, but just making that daily time to talk and pray is important, or getting out of the house once a week on a small date. It seems small, but to us it makes a huge difference. We are happier and everything seems to flow smoother. Plus, then when we are gone visiting family, we aren't angry with each other or resenting them for having 'one more thing' we need to be at, and we can enjoy ourselves more.
All in all this trip is MUCH needed. Our marriage isn't suffering at all, actually thanks to my pregnant body fixing my messed up hormones, we are better than we've ever been! But we realize our marriage is top priority, if our marriage isn't stable, everything falls apart. And with a baby on the way, we want to instill that rock solid foundation and go into parenthood on a strong note. I am in the process of looking for a devotional/book we can read and work through on our trip to instill good values to work on so they become good habits. So if you have any ideas, let me know!
Our original plan was to go to a marriage conference or retreat, but we couldn't make that work out, so we will be going on a road trip. Making stops in Michigan, Indiana, Illinois, and Wisconsin. Matt's cousin is getting married in Wisconsin, so halfway through our trip we will meet up with family there and celebrate with them! We are honestly SO excited for this trip...probably more so than we were for our honeymoon. These last few months together before baby boy comes are so precious to us, and we think working on our relationship with God together and our marriage is the best way possible to prepare for having a baby.
*prayer requests - Safe travels. My health - I am still getting sick off and on, and car rides and eating out are two of the worst things. So prayers that my body handles food and travel well, because it wouldn't be very enjoyable for either of us otherwise. Thanks so much! I am sure once we are back from the trip I will post about how it went :)
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